My Dating Journey...
Indian (Asian) women + divorced + was a single mother = recipe for failure, right?
Well, via an online dating site…
I met my Puerto Rican/Italian husband +
am now married for 5 years +
we have 2 beautiful girls
= happy ever after!
I first started dating when my 1st daughter was 1 year old. Given that I had no previous dating experience I was going with the flow and making it all up without a plan or a path. Through many dating failures, feeling rejections, break ups, being a doormat, being hard to get, overlooking red flags, letting toxicity take over me… I figured out the secret sauce to attract the right person and right relationship for me.
You see, it took me 10 years to get it right but that’s not going to be you!
I will cut through the BS and give it to you like it should be so you can get it right faster.
ABOUT KRUPA DESAI PADILLA
"Happy Mom,Happy Fam! It’s that simple"
Krupa is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC), certified in Mental Health, Communication and Accountability with vast knowledge and experience in Femininity, and Relationships.
As a Mom Coach, I help mothers to reach the next level of wellness, contentment, and success by providing them with the guidance and tools they need to achieve meaningful transformation from within.
When Mom is truly happy, her joy radiates from her core, creating an atmosphere of contentment and peace that envelops her family and all those around her. Her energy has the power to lift the spirits of those around her and create a sense of joy and satisfaction in the home. This happy level goes beyond getting nails and hair done, beyond checking things off your list, beyond home-work-life balance…
I’m here on a mission to transform as many mothers as I can so they can DO THIS even years after coaching with me!
"I learned to run a household at 8... but I didn’t put my own aspirations on hold"
Following my parents' separation, I took it upon myself to make sure the household kept running smoothly, despite the fact that it was only my father, my older and younger siblings, and myself living there. I figured that if my mother was no longer around, who else would do all the necessary chores?
At just 8 years old, I was already learning firsthand struggles of adulthood. I had to learn to cook a full meal, do the laundry, and organize the house. On top of that, I had to make a mental shopping list and ride my bicycle to the market to buy food. I couldn't help but feel the sadness of the situation, but I soon found solace in taking care of the house and myself. I even found motivation in taking this opportunity to learn from those around me.
Living on a street in India, I saw the daily struggles of the women, who would sacrifice their own needs for their families and bow down to their husbands. This made me realize there had to be another option - that this lifestyle was not the way to live. I had already seen enough to know that I wanted to make something of myself and strive for something better.
" I found inspiration everywhere!"
As I was making sure the house was running smoothly, I was also creating my art portfolio! My "big dream" as a child was to be a painter when I grew up. I made sure to keep up with my art portfolio by participating in every competition at school and winning most of them. I loved sketching and painting a variety of things, from drawing different types of leaves to using my own imagination to create my dream bedroom. I found inspiration in the smallest details and I was never without a pencil and paper... oh yes, I found inspiration everywhere!
Without even realizing it, I was creating a life plan. By making the best use of the limited resources I had, I was able to craft a plan tailored to my own needs and goals. Unbeknownst to me, I had developed a strategy for success.
"On one hand I was re-building lost mother-daughter relationship and on the other I was preparing to build a new mother-daughter relationship”
Reuniting with my mom after 13 years gave me a newfound appreciation for life. I was pregnant when I reunited with her. There was an exciting and overwhelming feeling of reuniting with my mom and conceiving a child at the same time that I couldn’t shake off. On one hand I was re-building the lost mother-daughter relationship and on the other I was preparing to build a new mother-daughter relationship.
I needed her to fulfill the unconditional love and acceptance that comes from a mother, and she did! It wasn’t an easy route, but I knew exactly what I wanted from her at that point in my life and I stuck by it.
This invaluable experience had enabled me to express unconditional love and acceptance to my daughter.
" Career and Me!”
When I was expecting my first daughter, I had already obtained an associate degree and worked in the field for four years, yet I felt as if I was stuck in my current position with no growth. Suddenly, my priorities shifted to ensuring my unborn daughter had a bright future and providing her with the flexibility of me being able to attend to her needs, whether that be picking her up from daycare if she was sick, taking her to her doctor appointments, or simply being able to enjoy those little changes in her as she grew.
I decided to take the plunge and make a plan to turn my life around. I opted to freelance instead of working full-time to give myself the flexibility I needed. I diligently saved money for a down payment on a house so that my daughter could have her own backyard to play in and grow up in. Additionally, I invested in a hobby that brought me joy, so I could be a happy mom for my child. After that, I took action and made my plan a reality.
Motherhood to me means - to give my all at it
and to give myself all that I can.